Are you feeling sexy?

Are you feeling sexy? Do you bound out of bed in the morning with energy and excitement for the day ahead? Does your body tingle with energy and your head buzz with anticipation? Do you feel alive, really alive? Come on, you say, we can’t possibly get up every day feeling that good. Yes, I agree, everyone has natural cycles of feeling high and low. Feeling that good all the time would actually be really annoying, not only to ourselves but those around us. But you can tap into a natural source of energy and create a higher state of being into your everyday life.

Health is a relative term. For some it is not being ill. For others healthy is being in peak form especially for athletes. Most people exist in a state of sub health and don’t even realise it. Their energy levels are low most of the time so this feels normal to them. Colds are a common occurrence and the joy of being able ‘to sleep in’ is their sluggish body slowing them down. Apart from the obvious unhealthy habits that slow us down, our libido also has an important part to play. Sexual health is a major part of our overall health. Our sexual energy and how we use that sexual energy affects us daily. The sexiness of our mind and how we feel about ourselves affects us. How comfortable we feel in our own skin. This all comes from within us and can not depend on another person affirming us.

Feeling sexy is not about asking your husband if your but looks good in this dress. Feeling sexy comes from an energy inside. An inner source of satisfaction, a knowing that you are sexy because you feel sexy. So where does this feeling sexy come from?
We all have sexual energy, we call it sex drive. It is our natural hormones prompting us and reminding us that there is a natural act for us to do that is not only useful in recreating more life but also creating more life in ourselves. From an early age we learn to repress and control this energy or drive. Talking about sex openly is not acceptable, and labelled unacceptable. How do we know our sex life is healthy when we don’t talk about it to find out, (except in the boys locker room with much bragging and joking.)

In this age of increasing spiritual awareness, we are becoming more in touch with ourselves, spiritually and sexually. Anyone who states they are not very spiritual is just disconnected or unaware. They have become distracted by the ‘distractions of the modern world and disconnected with their true selves. No one feels comfortable with their sexuality. This is a side effect of the many thousands of years of social repression. Many cultures almost outlaw it. When you feel fantastic about yourself physically and mentally, you automatically feel fantastic sexually and this needs to be expressed. It is a part of your spirituality. Sex is a connection to your spirituality. How fearful it is then that the church has labelled it as evil, as something that disconnects you from spirituality, but it is quite the opposite.

Spiritual stimulation is everywhere. Spiritualism has become commercialised. The world is now offering us many ways to help us on our spiritual path. Unlike religion, there is no right or wrong way. Whatever speaks to us, and works for us is right for us, and perhaps this too is constantly changing. So what does sex have to do with spirituality you ask. If we listen to our church leaders, sex is only for those who are committed to each other through marriage, and if you are truly spiritual, then you wouldn’t need it at all. This may be the truth for some, but it is their truth and no one else’s. It doesn’t have to be yours unless you want it to be. We create our own truth. You can follow the truth of the yogis who find enlightenment through meditation. But what is meditation? Stilling the mind to open your subconscious to tap into the pool of consciousness.

You don’t have to sit cross legged for hours to achieve this. Meditation is different for everyone. For some it may be finding a mosquito ridden creek in the middle of the mangroves and fishing for hours on end in solitude. For some it may be painting, or push bike riding. What ever stills the “drunken monkeys” in your head and takes you to a higher plane of being. Life itself is a meditation, not removing yourself form it. Sex is a meditation. Making love is a meditation. It can be just a physical act of self pleasure and indulgence or it can take you to a higher state of being and bring healing and creative energy into physical form. Sex is sacred. Not only in the way the church teaches us but at a truly deeper level, beyond just honouring our partner and creating life.

Sex is universal – everyone can participate even without a partner. What is not universal is belief systems and what is ‘right and wrong’ surrounding sexual conduct. “Your body is your greatest source of pleasure.” I find sex the greatest way to physical pleasure. Some find exercise and pushing themselves to the limit, some find eating and drinking the greatest source of their physical pleasure. For me and many others, sex can be the most amount of fun you can have with your body. Here is where we get confused though. We are taught that it is OK to see a display of violence and anger on our Televisions, but not OK to see a display of love and affection and physical expression of sex. People being influenced by other perceptions of the right and wrong of this world, find other ways to find pleasure in their bodies. We turn to food, wine, sport, and deny ourselves the pure pleasure of sex. We are taught that sex is for only people in love.

Sex is pure fun and joy… is that so wrong? For sure it can be misused in many ways, but so can everything. What a delicious way to recreate life. It isn’t compulsory to be with someone you love to have sex. Sex is an expression of self love. Sex is an expression of the joy of life. Life is for living and experiencing. If you want to experience just sex without love….this is not possible because simply being involved in the act of sex is an expression of self love. Life is for experiencing and finding out what gives you joy. “You don’t need to have a reason for anything, just be-cause. Just be the cause of your experience.” (Neale Donald Walsh - Conversations with God)
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